“Rule Number One: Don’t you bring that, that person into my bedroom!“
That rule, or one like it is repeated in some 50% of the houses in these United States.
Rule Number One is my own wording but I got to thinking about it because Cunning Minx and Anita Wagner brought up the same dismay in Advice for Poly Newbies.
Minx will watch the Man Burn tonight. So will gekko.
50,000 enthusiasts came together in a Nevada Desert this past week to create Black Rock City, home of the Burning Man. The 2011 art theme there is “Rites of Passage,” an invitation to everyone there to camp on and create the trials by fire of life. They all depart on Monday, having left no human trace whatsoever.
I know a number of people there, either personally or virtually. Black Rock City attracts poly peeps who love gatherings. Poly Asylum, PolyBurn, PolyParadise, Queer Women’s Camp and more have set up theme camps.
Theme camps have become Burning Man’s core. And, since it is B-Man, any theme camp must be participatory.
The Polyamory theme camps may have orgies. But they also may have just people who love to talk about (and celebrate) the way they live.
Living is up close and personal in Black Rock City.
Readers who have had long-distance relationships know the effort it takes to keep the intimacy. We do it with text and email and phone and Skype and organized visits. We’ve often thought about how much easier it would be to live in the same place. Heck, it would be easier to live in the same state!
Or would it?
Rule Number One would suddenly be … challenging.
We all are newbies when it comes to building compressed relationships when in the same place with each other, so I’m not sure how John or Jane would take it if their sweetie hooked up with a hottie in the same (Black Rock) city or the same tent. Burning Man sold out; there were a ton of newbies this year. I’m thinking a lot of Johns and Janes have found out by now.
Rites of Passage could take on a whole new meaning this year.
As an aside, I’m not sure why there is the emphasis on techno rock when Light My Fire still burns strong after more than 40 years.