Comments on: The Aftermath, Part I http://blog.dickharper.com/2010/09/05/love-5/ Most excellent shines and whines Sat, 19 May 2012 15:51:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Dick http://blog.dickharper.com/2010/09/05/love-5/#comment-15299 Dick Mon, 06 Sep 2010 03:15:47 +0000 http://blog.dickharper.com/2010/09/05/love-5/#comment-15299 <i>@gekko: We so easily accept multiple relationships when we do not believe sex is or can be involved [but] we make it complicated when it ... involves romance or sex.</i> I disagree. See, I think gekko was poly even in high school and her data point may not be enough to draw a conclusion. We all remember high school hissies when one girl gets left out when her BFF malls with some other girl. Sherrie may well have felt neglected when <u>Tami</u> was with JoAnne and gekko with Sandra, so Sherrie was left holding short shrift. @gekko: We so easily accept multiple relationships when we do not believe sex is or can be involved [but] we make it complicated when it … involves romance or sex.

I disagree.

See, I think gekko was poly even in high school and her data point may not be enough to draw a conclusion.

We all remember high school hissies when one girl gets left out when her BFF malls with some other girl. Sherrie may well have felt neglected when Tami was with JoAnne and gekko with Sandra, so Sherrie was left holding short shrift.

]]> By: gekko http://blog.dickharper.com/2010/09/05/love-5/#comment-15298 gekko Mon, 06 Sep 2010 02:58:57 +0000 http://blog.dickharper.com/2010/09/05/love-5/#comment-15298 <p>When I was in HS I had two best friends. We still keep in touch, go on girl's outings, get together for card games, parties, etc. to this day. There was no difficulty for me keeping them straight, nor sharing time with each of them such that neither felt I was shorting the other. Of course, they were girls, as was I, so any jealousy that might have existed would not have been of the intense sort a wife or a husband might feel if their spouse added another friend of "spousal importance" to the marriage. But the point, I believe, does illustrate that it does not necessarily have to be difficult to balance multiple loves. I didn't love Sherrie any less because Tami was a part of my life. Tami did not feel neglected when I spent time with Sherrie. Neither did I feel left out when Tami spent time with JoAnne or Sherrie with Sandra.</p> <p>And so forth.</p> <p>We so easily accept multiple relationships when we do not believe sex is or can be involved.</p> <p>We make it complicated when it is supposed to, or has the possibility of involving romance or sex.</p> When I was in HS I had two best friends. We still keep in touch, go on girl’s outings, get together for card games, parties, etc. to this day. There was no difficulty for me keeping them straight, nor sharing time with each of them such that neither felt I was shorting the other. Of course, they were girls, as was I, so any jealousy that might have existed would not have been of the intense sort a wife or a husband might feel if their spouse added another friend of “spousal importance” to the marriage. But the point, I believe, does illustrate that it does not necessarily have to be difficult to balance multiple loves. I didn’t love Sherrie any less because Tami was a part of my life. Tami did not feel neglected when I spent time with Sherrie. Neither did I feel left out when Tami spent time with JoAnne or Sherrie with Sandra.

And so forth.

We so easily accept multiple relationships when we do not believe sex is or can be involved.

We make it complicated when it is supposed to, or has the possibility of involving romance or sex.

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